The ultimate guide for successful online dating
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Difference between online dating and real life dating
In real life you can aknowledge quite easily if someone is interested in you or not:non-verbal communication, verbal communication, and so on.
In online dating messaging, you will have to be much more explicit: non verbal communication doesn't exists.
You will have to create it artificially with technical features,while staying polite and raise the other person's interest.
That's to say that the more equiped with appropriate features the applications are, the most seductive your experience in online dating will be, and the more seductive you will be able to be.
But it's up to you and your talent to use these features wisely in order to seduce.
Non verbal communication is the most important in love affairs.
This is what creates the chemistry between two persons.
No reply to your first message
This situation may have several origins, the most common are:
1) your profile is ugly:
bad photos, with bad clothes or a bad ennvironment, bad title or description.
It can happen even to the most seductive people...
You already know the answer: your are not obliged to be on your knees on your photos,
but your profile is the first attention to the people you want to seduce: if you
made it in a bad way, they understand that you don't really care about getting their attention...
2) Your profile is boosted too much:
Your photos are processed deeply with sofwares, to dissimulate your age or some extra kilos and so on.
Don't be naive, people are clever, like you are.
3) Your first message had no impact:
Here we get into the most complicated topic: who are you actually?
This is were starts your journey on online dating.
You will have to find what you really want, what you really feel
to find "your" words, which will have also to match with the photos and the text parts of your profile.
Remember that you are online: nobody sees you in a message, and the first message that you send is in 99% of the
cases the one who will open the communication, or block it.
Very rarely people come back on a profile who sent them a very bad first message.
4) The other party is testing you:
Here we get again into one of the most complicated topic in online dating: what is the meaning of this no response ?
If you have passed the test of the first three topics: you have a good profile, your first message gets usually
some reply, it means that for some people, it is not recommended by their education, or their experience to reply to the first message
to an unknown person.
Don't give up, try again with a second message.
To find your second message's "words", you will have to proceed with the same introspection, as to find your
first message style.
You are not obliged to send always the same first message or second message !
No reply to all your messages since ages, but you cannot
decide to stop writing to her/him, because you had a huge crush...
first case: the other party regularly read all your messages without replying, possible reasons:
1)The other party is already engaged with someone.
This can happened.This other party maybe is just looking for some attention and seduction, without any intentions
to find a partner online.
In that case, don't waste your life, just do what you feel day after day, and maybe you will finally find
what you are looking for with someone else... that's life.
2) The other party reply sometimes with an unfriendly message.
Same solution as in case 1)
second case: the other party never read your messages, possible reasons:
1)Check the last connection date on her/his profile, maybe the other party has found a life partner and forgotten
online dating...check if the other has ever visited your profile.
Visit her/his profile regularly to attract attention, you will appear
in her/his visitors section, with the date of your visits.
Very rarely people have no interest at all for regular visitors.
2) The other party has an active profile but maybe, is overwhelmed by messages: same solution as in 1)
What to talk about ?
A connection with a person on a dating network is different from any other connection.
Do not forget: as far as you have never met in real yet the other party, you are, in 99% of the cases,
an anonymous person, even if the other party had a real crush on you.
That is the reality of online dating, you can be ejected in one click,
because the other party lost confidence in what you are telling and so on.
So, it is better not to get into topics like politics,
family problèms, dramatic stories.
Most of the time, such topics will just kill the communication radically, very quickly
It is much better to talk about funny things, joking,
showing that you are a nice person to spend time with.
You are not just looking for a good friend to talk about politics on a dating site, right ?
How to protect from scammers
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Our experience told us that scammers don't have much imagination.
Most of the time they use the same strategy on many people.
The most common one is to pretend that some accident happened to her/him or happened to some relatives: on the street, a sudden desease, a car crash etc... that lead to buy very expensive medecine or treatment.
And of course, you will appear as the savior of the situation, while the scammer, send you a lot of crying emojies and so on to rive you to send him money.
In some countries, 100 dollards, represents one month of salary...
so for some people this kind of scam can make them much more comfortable in their lives.
Don't be naive, in particular if you never had a video chat with the other party: in some cases some scammers pretend to be a lady while they are just dishonnest guys !!
The worst scam is the one with some fake video chats with amazingly beautiful ladies, who are certifying you that you are the personthat they waited all their lives...
First thing: as you will notice, the rapidity of the typing, on the keyboard does NOT correspond with the movements of the hands of the amazing lady...if you can see them.
If you ask why, you will be replied that, you are so important that a
so called agency, required the help of a translator for the chat.
Anybody can invent kilometers of such lies...
Second thing: that is a fact that a lot of scammers create very complicated scams with fake dating sites.
In these sites you will in general find amazingly beautiful profiles with very professional photos,
and many buttons to chat immediatly with incredibly beautiful persons for example.
Third thing: the reality is that these scams are using models, who rent their image, on photos and videos.
Some of these videos are customely made to simulate a video chat:
on this one the model is dancing for you in a room that is a kitchen (with intentionnaly poor aspect in general) for example,
on this other one the model is laughing ect...
The fact is that it is very easy to create such fake chats, with streaming servers, and some code tolaunch the apropriate type of video on demand...
Once again don't be naive, just listen the little voice in your head saying:"this is very suspect".
It is a pity that such scammers are ruining the reputation of some countries, on the internet, while, if you traveland live there you may find amazingly beautiful and honest ladies and gentlemen.
Just use the internet for the best, and if you have doubts on certain regions of the world, just take a plane to check it by yourself !
How to behave on the first real meeting ?
First of all, our aim in this article is not write a sociological, or philosophical essay. We are just here to
draw a list of facts that are constants in relationships.
Althought a dating site cannot provide you the same experience as real meetings, the connection
that you may have with a person via the features of the dating site is already a reality. You will have
to check with a real meeting, if this was not a fake reality.
I) What to never do:
1) As we already talked about, avoid topics like:
- in general all kind of topics that make people argue and get angry in real life as these topics will radically drive
the conversation on an unfriendly area, change the mood into a serious or professionnal one, and as a result will
drastically cut the connection, the pleasure to communicate and being together.
2) Of course: don't be rude or vulgar. You are not obliged to behave like talking to your boss, or in a conference,
but you have to keep in mind that the person knows you, only through the messages that she received from you: don't show the image
of someone who has no culture, no vocabulary, no skills except: " wow cool" etc... nobody wants to be with a silly person...
Would you be atracted by a person dressed with ugly dirty clothes ?
Your language is the appearance of what your mind and personality are.
3) If you are a man: of course you will invite your partner in a restaurant, concert and so on. Ladies never appreciate avaricious men.
Never say things like: " Each one pays halfs of the note, ok?"
4) Hiding your feelings
Despite what some people may say, we think that it is never a good idea to try to appear as someone that you are not.
Why ? Let's check it out:
- If you brilliantly succeed in showing the image of a self confident person and so on - while you are shy - your partner, most of the time
will guess that something is not right: anybody have an instinct that decrypt the appearances. As a result you may
appear like a manipulator, or an hypocrit person,or a person whois so sure that anybody will fall in love with him/her as he is so brilliant:
a horrible person !
- If you fail in that, you will just be...ridiculous.
||) What to do:
1) Handling your anxiety:
When you are impressed: don't give up, don't listen the small voice in your head saying:"What a disaster....".
When you are driving a car or a motor bike, if something happens in front of you, you just try to avoid the disaster.
It is almost the same here...
Just think about the correspondance that you had with your partner, and your feelings at that time:you liked the
person and you managed to meet her in real ! Your dream is coming true now, just catch it, don't behave like someone
who is bored and wants that to stop...
If you really feel like you are losing control, as an emergency tip, try to stop focusing on the current situation: think
that you are just in front of your device, chating with this person throught the dating application, this should lower your nervesness.
2) What to talk about ?
Why did you managed to meet the person in real ?
Most of the time, the reason is: to check if what your partner wrote to you is real, as there are so many
dishonest people, about age, career, height and so on.
It is a kind of biometric check, actually, and this is one of the reasons which makes you nervous...
3) If the person is not the one who appears on her profile onthe dating app?
Even if the person is incredibly beautiful and attractive: just go away.
This person is dishonest with you since the beginning.
What can you expect from such a person?
4)If the person ask you to lend him/her some money ?
Just go away... you already know why...
5) If you feel that the person is disappointed during the first five minutes...
Francly speaking, that is not very good.
Let's analyse the situation:
On your side you are charmed by the person, but it doesn't seems to be mutual.
Don't give up. Just follow that feeling that you have. Very rarely people run away from a person that is charmed by them,
because it is always nice to feel that someone really like you and is interested in you. Anybody likes attention.
6) The main thing:
Just follow your heart.Remember the good time you had corresponding with that person, and your desre to meet her in real.
This should do most of the trick...
Happy meetings !
Coming soon:more dating tips.
Artificial intelligence in dating process, what people think in
I am Natalie Maximets,
a certified life transformation coach and a freelance writer at OnlineDivorce.com.
I have vast experience in the field of psychology and I help people go through fundamental life challenges.
I saw your query and would like to provide some input on it.
If a potential match is nearby, AI could track their patterns - where they like to go, what they do when they are out and about.
It can also parse their social media posts and help by searching for patterns in those posts.
AI could propose other people who have similar habits based on the person's pattern (say, someone who always walks around town);
similarly, if it finds a match of someone who has an interest in hiking or food trucks or something else specific to your interests,
then it will find other matches with that same interest as well.
I am Pratyush, the writer and editor of Book of Barbering. Probably, you have received a lot of answers to your query, however,I want to share something different with you.
Nowadays, AI is helping us in many ways. But if talk about dating sites, the application of AI can be different. What I feel important, is being put down below.
What’s the basic difference between a dating site and an online food delivery app? Both of them are testing the matches of one person and often recommend optionsone by one.
In both cases, AI is being used to show those ads in front of the users.
According to me, as marriage is a crucial part of our life, we should not compromise with it.
Most of us now depend on virtual platforms for dating.
So, the application or online site developers should focus on making AI, based on some special questions.
There will be three conditions:
· The questions must be on a very personal level and the answers won’t be shown toothers.
· The answer given time will be short but enough.
· There won’t be any MCQ-type questions. The answers must have 2 sentences each.
Now, why so? Because during a certain pressure within a limited time,
our brain stops thinking deeply and our raw mind set comes out.
That is the reflection of someone’s true nature. What else could be more perfect for a long-lasting relationship?
For example: What will you do if your partner won’t listen to you?
The answer to this question will help one to understand the nature of the person.So how AI can help?
The AI should have the power to judge by statements. Then according to them, they easily can give the matches.
Thus a restricted domain will be created. This is one traditional method, that was used when online dating facility was not popular.
In the end, NO AI can beat human feelings. So, talking and sharing feelings will be the best way to find a soul mate.
Through the method, you can have a few choices in your hand among thousand. Help yourself by showing them your true self.
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In-application client conduct information enhanced by the profile information
gives food to the AI calculations that figure out how to give progressively
more significant and organized matches.
The intricacy of such matchmaking has gone a lot farther than "swiping right" for
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Presently many organizations tune the calculations to represent character characteristics, music taste, convictions, mentality, and substantially more.
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I believe I can help with what you are looking for.
Thus, I would like to provide my insight on this query.
Artificial intelligence can engage with dating services in a variety of ways.
As AI becomes increasingly popular and powerful, it will have a variety of effects throughout time.
However, for the time being, it's quite likely that AI will be operating behind the scenes to assist humans in finding their soul mates.
A limited version of AI is now in use on numerous dating sites with the sole purpose of assisting users in finding a decent match.
There are so many facets to a person's love life that determining what they're looking for or who might be a suitable match for them can be tough.
Artificial Intelligence has the ability to analyse a person's profile and then use that knowledge to a dating service, and some AI systems can even learn from failed dates!
However, these AI can only do so much.
They are, nevertheless, improving all the time. Chatbots are another AI-related application that we've already discussed.
Other technologies include face recognition matchmaking, which allows you to select someone with precise appearances and features with only one click.
This tool is normally only available on high-end websites.
AI will play a larger role in the future, and everyone should start preparing now.